#132: Secrets

I told a man today, Why women love to buy shoes. And speaking of shoes, we are not talking of footwear, but of ballerinas, Chucks, Sneakers, High Heels, Stilettos, Boots, Stiefletten, … And when he heard of me, that is the reason, that it is simply the only “Garment” is, that does not change in size, which we do not 2 Need to purchase larger numbers, because it tweaks, because a Speckranderl over it depends, because it is the pear / apple / Soletti form does not fit, we need only to slip and we liked the shoe, is convenient, is beautiful, a perfect fit for the day, the wardrobe, to the T-shirt, …

He stood with his mouth open in front of me and just got a little insight into our secret.

Dialogues: Men at the hairdresser

Man, Mind 50 +, gray fringe of hair around the bald sits just wash the hair and asks the apprentice to the further procedure.

gray hair ring: and how moch of ma now? vurher or later?
Trainee: entschudligung, I do not know, what they mean!
gray hair ring: na we have to do now or previously?
Trainee (more confused): I'm supposed to wash your hair.
gray hair ring: but then we do it with that thing as right or?
Trainee (more desperate): hmmm, I do not know …
gray hair ring: Ernstl, Ernstl come times
Ernstl comes (Chief)
gray hair ring: tell Ernstl, tell how we do it now?
Chief: what do now, now get the hair gwaschn ..
gray hair ring: yes but the thing, how we do it …
Chief: you mean the Darb ..
gray hair ring: Ernstl mach ma THE THING now, or …
Chief: now going on gwoschen and nochher the contract ma Farbn
… and a gray bisl you should read indoors already, because you have gray hair now times …

#131: we are unhappy?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wait-but-why/generation-y-unhappy_b_3930620.html

Im Artikel der Huffingtonpost findet sich ein sehr nachdenklich-machender Artikel zu unserer/meiner Generation, which is unfortunate for this thesis, by the self-imposed expectations and realities of the incoming. Die Generation Y steht für Yuppies. Wobei in den 1980ern Yuppies, die Young urban Peoples, die waren, die den materialistischen Lebensstil prägten (jetzt sehr oberflächlich formuliert). In dem Artikel geht die Analystin aber weiter, in dem sie dieser Gruppe ein zusätzliches Gen Y hinzufügt. GYPSYS! – Gen Y Protagonisten, Special Yuppies, who all have one thing in common, they are to be convinced unique, more able to (also good) than any other, to play a special role in our lives.

And quite honestly, if we look at some issues today, the deal globally, try media, But also to emphasize society and politics again, how important your, my, Role in the lives of all. The global footprint – I can work out any time, which I contribute or not great just great. Social Media in Times of Crisis (Syria, Egypt, …) – There are individuals, which are stylized here to heroes, and permanently removed and with one click. Social media in everyday life, that contribute to the illusion, that anything is possible at any time to reach, Today Vienna, Rome tomorrow, tomorrow the new car, the beautiful baby … We can follow all the stories of the other live.

Happiness is defined in the article by, that it is the difference from reality minus expectations. And the generation of the 1970s to the mid 1990s lives with a tremendous personal expectations. Everything is possible, and most quickly and immediately and in the future. While our parents were planning their life plan yet to secure long-term career planning (in consciousness, that it “hard” Work is). Studies, that it met the Gen Y today (hopefully self-fulfilling) Careers is, passing by, that someone (the question is who?) recognizes, how awesome you are. An example is, as a mother is asked by her 18 year old son soon, if he can get a car for graduation. On the question of the mother, what and how he imagines that the (she is a single parent, but quite a good job), he said, drives as well as a BMW, He already wants. The BMW is a company car, their first car was a self-selling golf at 300 €, and trying to make him the clear short, he said: “Previously it was just different. It was just a question, do not get upset.”

Do we really expect too much of our lives and believe in yourself countless “offered” Options? And these opportunities are actually real or just an illusion, let us dream of the more? If this is so, and we are unhappy, What should we teach our children turn? And perhaps this is the reason why young people today speak in interviews about your future again of traditional images and Safety.

It is difficult to face the issue, because it questions the own ideas of life. I myself am often in a dilemma, I have a feeling, my day has too few hours, my week to a few days and so on and so forth.

Psychology with a difference: Goal

I'm crazy about my metamemory, this has mainly J.T. Hard set apart, and describes it as the memory, which as “Felt something-to-know-” Memory works. Even in coaching I like to use the meta-, to problems, To consider solutions or other information. And research results, shows the “Property”, that gives us the metamemory. For knowledge tests Test results are higher, when individuals with “Do not know” have relied on the metamemory, to give as an answer randomly.

And there are also tendencies, that the metamemory certainly has his co-partner in the stomach, So I will advise more thoroughly on his belly to hear.

#130: Theory of the alpha male

Yesterday I had a very enlightening conversation with a man for relationship or behavior that no longer exist today have relationship behavior, he meant by, that everything boils down to, that women in search of an alpha male are, it needs for reproduction, then to replace it if necessary, when it offers something better. Of course, he admits, that men also make it very easy today, and by 20 Years with the 23 the year “new, better” Happiness is looking, but men have it much harder, because they have to constantly reinvent. Because women still want to have a bit more, believe, that there could be more to come.

The conviction of his, that every happy relationship after 10 Years, including children, is a lie, either because they are in the Cafe on yoga teachers (we will see of which social class spoken here) finally feels understood – However, he only quick … searches, or the man schedules the monthly brothel visit or. is delighted by the secretary. All lies and deceit for the apparent superficiality of happy marriage.

Of course, there are those marriages, Relationships and perhaps they are also more, because we deal with it in an open society with these previous taboo topics, new media and technologies pretend the variety of possible decisions, experience and also when divorces and separations, a high (42,51 %, Avg. Life 10,6 Years in 2012), yet this generalization would destroy any hope, questions and good working relationships on a pedestal shabby, where they do not belong.

#129: School choice and school choice-pressure-stress

Since it is believed, if you have had a baby already as good as the elementary school, then the elementary school is a breeze for the second. But unfortunately this is not so, because rumors of parishes, safer route to school, Area allocations as well “nosed” Dog warmers, how to make me feel uncomfortable. Because, I know, what I want for my children and me, and unfortunately, this fits together with any of the immediately surrounding schools.

The education system today offers a variety of offers and then it would be moronic to assign this to the City. But at least it is according to information from the school inspector today is not so, that my children are assigned to a parish and there must inevitably go to school. However, there are criteria, that should be considered in the application. First are siblings (quite reasonable), Place of residence, Care needs, Way to work, Concepts, … are other criteria, although I personally choosing the concepts (it will have a basic, parents when their children bilingually, stages, … want to be trained) einschätze much higher, as well as type of care (I appreciate the folded form of teaching very) or the way to work. But is as individual as the child, should also be the choice of the appropriate school. We want our children today minimally 9 Years to 13 See years in education, and they shall also have at best pleasure, because they should just put desire school in elementary school probably the first important foundation for this.

Dialogues: Exchange and so

I: (lying in bed, and a little short tempered) … and I wish I had a brave son!
son: then it wish you the Christ Child.
I: (somewhat taken aback) and you? where do you go then, if I get a brave son?
son: I stay there.
I: is the, you're brave?
son: yes
I: and you (somewhat bolder) then you need a new mummy?
son: no, you must remain calm.
I: that is, there is no better mom?
son: (thoughtful) no,… (break) … also by nico.
I: the erika can also be your mom?
son: no, you're my mom, Erika must be dad.

Heroes of today: Girlfriends

Friends are special, they are there, when you need them, they listen and not judge. So it should be at least, and we should not forget. Sometimes friends will of course, and you actually forget to listen, forget, that each of them has something special for, takes much for granted. And then something happens, what stirs and shows, how vulnerable are also friends.
You do not accept the lifestyle and attitudes of friends, but we must respect them, because it represents friendship and it makes me more, further in my views, on in my life setting, further in my friendships.

My friends are my very special heroines.