I remember, I had a course in developmental psychology about love and relationship, while I remained mainly in memory, that when you are in a relationship begins to create a balance, that these relationships are not of long duration are, because there are times, where one inevitably slips into negative or positive, because circumstances do not run in a straight line. It seemed to me then as now logically, a relationship and partnership, the continuously calculated, when I, 've done for someone how and where, is exhausting and especially not appreciative.
In my own little universe I would also work to friends, often friends and family on the principle “provide” and I get back without immediate settle and offsetting more than enough. It has become my only aware of this issue again, as a mom of a friend of my son said, that they can not return the favor as quickly with a return visit, and I just thought: “Is it the same!” Or not? Also a friend of mine, whose daughter goes with my in ballet, said, now you come back to me, because we were so often lately with you anyway … I know, no one wants to remain someone owe, take advantage of someone, only take, … But I'm not assuming, because I think, that we no longer have it is necessary, exploit someone, because we are glad, that we have friends and people around us, who are there, if it is necessary to provide.
And of course I was already exploited, but these people are just that entertaining companion, because they remove themselves from friendships and their possibilities.
..so I have now as,,de,Friend's my son's mom,,de,come out and at the risk of,,de,hold again for causing a blog article following statement,,de,Just when man / woman nevertheless knows quite a while,,de,should be known,,de,that the reference on,,de,retaliate,,de,neither not appreciative or balance was pulling meant,,de,But on the previous proven friendly ritual,,de,once the children are with you,,de,again with me,,de,and the other is characterized,,de,professional,,de,unlocked,,de,has moved,,de,you owe me now a Malibu Orange alone for the name,,de,Love Erika,,de,with you I drinke like a Malibu Orange,,de,already own,,de,because I it's you,,de,Not only is the friend of my son mother,,de,but also because you're just Erika,,de,one of the heroines,,de “Mama des Freundes meines Sohnes” outen und auf die Gefahr hin, gleich wieder einen Blogartikel zu veranlassen folgendes Statement festhalten: Gerade wenn man/frau sich doch schon eine Weile kennt, sollte bekannt sein, dass der Verweis aufs “revanchieren” weder nicht wertschätzend oder Bilanz ziehend gemeint war. Sondern sich auf das bisherige bewährte freundschaftliche Ritual – einmal sind die Kinder bei dir, einmal bei mir – und der jeweils andere wird dadurch (beruflich) freigespielt – bezogen hat. That. du schuldest mir jetzt einen Malibu Orange allein für die Bezeichnung “Mama des Freundes meines Sohnes” ; )
Liebe Erika,
mit dir drinke ich gerne einen Malibu Orange, schon alleine, weil ich es du bist. Nicht nur die Mutter des Freundes meines Sohnes, sondern auch weil du eben Erika bist, eine der Heldinnen, I was able to make in my life,,de,is important to me,,de,that no one believes,,de,that I publish his name,,de,without the person wants,,de. Wichtig ist mir, dass niemand glaubt, dass ich seinen Namen veröffentliche, ohne dass es die Person will.